I woke upto this shocking news about corrective rape. Some parents use rape to ‘correct’ and ‘cure’ their homosexual children. Usually, they appoint a family member to have sexual intercourse with the homosexual person against his/her will so that he/she understands that heterosexuality is the only acceptable form of sexuality. This practice is quite popular in South Africa and now, incidents like these are being reported in India.
Homosexuality is a crime in India and it is very common for parents to force their homosexual kids to get married to a heterosexual person. Even heterosexual love marriages are stressful because parents just want to dictate terms.
Ask any parent who is involved in anything like the above and they will tell you that they did it because of ‘love’ or because they wanted the best for their children. It seems more like an obsession with power that comes from controlling your children, fear of alienation because of the stigma around homosexuality and the need to prove that your opinion is right. These people are convinced that they know the objective truth about sexuality and the universe. And this is where all the problems begin. When you are overtly-attached to your version of truth (which you call THE truth), you will go to any lengths to prove that you are right. I have a question for these people: If you think that homosexuality is a sin and that God will not accept it, why don’t you leave the ‘punishment’ to God? Why do you appoint yourself as a custodian of culture or moral police? Let your God settle the matters. Or are you afraid that there is no God? Or are you afraid of losing the brownie points which you can get by ‘punishing’ sinners?
Why do we want to control the behavior of those around us? Is it because we cannot control our own mind, our own desires, our own thoughts etc? We are given ideals by the society: ideal man who conquers everything, ideal woman who is subservient, ideal child who always does what her parents ask her to, ideal sexuality, ideal husband, ideal wife, ideal employee and the ultimate ideal for some is the ideal devotee. The pattern is something like this: you are not good enough but if you work hard, someday, you can get my love. This starts from childhood where our parents put conditions. It’s not wrong to have preferences but thinking that these preferences are the ultimate truth is beginning of violence. I personally have seen family members who are more than 50 years of age but are STILL working hard to impress their parents! They are so desperate for love and attention that they are even ready to do unethical things like bribing .. just to make their parents happy. They create the same pattern in their children and then a chain is created. Everything comes down to this desire to feel worthy. But can we find this sense of worth from outside? I am not sure.
P.S. If you want to help in raising awareness regarding corrective rapes in India, you can contribute to this filmmaker who is making a film on this subject.