I made a commitment of blogging everyday and sometimes, I really struggle with it. My grandfather is not well since past few weeks. I’m not really close to him but at the end of the day, it is painful to witness someone’s suffering. Plus, the ambulance, the hospital and medicines drain your energy (the atmosphere was so scary that my blood pressure dropped) I wanted to keep my promise amidst all this. It got me thinking about commitment. It is virtuous to be committed to something or someone. You get a lot of respect for your will power. We have been taught that those who commit are good people who care about others but that’s not always the case. Sometimes, in the name of commitment and numbers, we end up becoming a little too selfish.
It is a fact that you cannot write well everyday. There will be days when you are going to be below par. Is it fair to publish such low quality content then? Sure, you are sticking to your commitment and the numbers are adding up. Your post count is great. But what about the one who is reading it? He/She is taking out time to read your blog and if you are just posting for the sake of obligation, are you not insulting him/her? People can do 100 different things but they are reading your blog and that is actually a huge responsibility because there is no dearth of content in this modern age. Posting everyday might make me feel better. Even if the content sucks, I stuck to my promise but when another person or a group of people get involved, I can longer just think about myself. This happens in every relationship. Some parents are together because they are obsessed with commitment. They will show off their commitment by celebrating their anniversaries but what if their commitment hurt their children?
What matters more? Your commitment of writing X number of blog posts or the relationships that you build with fellow bloggers? I think it is about balance. Commitment makes you push yourself a little more and that’s actually good for both you and your followers.The greater the challenge, the more you will sharpen your skills. I would also say that since the followers have also entered into a commitment, even they have to push themselves a little bit. Commitment is about both the good and the bad. There will be times when both the sides will be disappointed with each other but that’s part of the deal. However, if your commitment becomes more about ego then both sides will suffer. At the same time, thinking *only* about the other person might work against the relationship! Remember the day you started your blog? You just wrote for yourself and people started following you for your authentic self! It is a play between will power and surrender. Sometimes, you really have to try hard to make things work and sometimes, you just have to let go. It reminds me of Yoga and Tantra. Yoga is about will power and doing the impossible. Tantra is about surrender and trusting the universe. The one who knows when to surrender and when to use his/her will power knows the art of relationships.