When you are shamed again and again, it is very natural to feel worthless. When you are told by most people that you are not good enough, you find it hard to think differently about yourself. This post is not to criticise those who feel unworthy, it is only to explore the impact of feeling that way. Sometimes, consistent feeling of unworthiness, becomes a defence mechanism.
1. If you are worthless, then you don’t have to do anything. You don’t have to change because no matter what you do, it will turn out to be crap, right? Why bother exploring yourself? What you can do if you are doomed to always fail?
2. If you are worthless, then you don’t have to take care of your loved ones. You don’t have to bother about their needs and desires because you can’t fulfill them! You don’t have to try to be a better person because you are going to fail at it.
3. If you are worthless, then you don’t have to take care of yourself and you can depend on others to make you feel good.You can then blame others for your lack of happiness or for making bad choices on your behalf.
4. If you are worthless, then you can look down on others. You can say, “People love those who are confident. They don’t have sympathy for weak. The world is mean”.