A people-pleaser (like everybody else) can impress two kinds of people: Other people-pleasers like her and people who don’t care much about what others think of them. If she tries to impress the first group and succeeds, she feels dissatisfied. If someone is pleased with you, then he must be:
1. genuinely pleased with you
2. pretending that he is pleased with you because he wants something from you
3. pretending that he is pleased with you because he wants you to think that he is a nice person.
A people-pleaser is not trusted by others because he is not honest. If he is honest, he won’t be liked by everybody. So, when a people-pleaser is trying to please another people-pleaser, she is participating in a futile exercise. Even if the people-pleaser is impressed with her, she won’t be able to trust him because there is no guarantee that he is speaking the truth. So that leaves the people pleaser with the second group of people: those who don’t care much about what others think about them. They mostly follow their inner voice. They have the strength to be the minority. They only respect those who respect themselves. The only way the people pleaser can impress this confident person is by being herself!