If a girl wears a short dress.
Most men are afraid of associating themselves with anything feminine because in a patriarchal society, femininity is inferior to masculinity. In a culture where people say stuff like “Ladki hai kya? Mard ban, be a man!” or “Haath mein chudi pehenke rakha hai kya”. it is difficult to find men who embrace feminine things like nose rings or skirts. It takes guts for a mainstream Bollywood actor to be associated with feminine stuff. It takes guts for a mainstream Bollywood actor to say in his interview that he is hyper-sensitive.
We always worry about what people will think about us but we hardly think about who these “people” actually are. If we analyze deeply, we will find that we are mostly, subconsciously/unconsciously trying to impress white, heterosexual men. We might say that we want to impress our neighborhood aunty but let’s analyze: What if this aunty has a dark skin color and what if she is fat? What if she is “unattractive”? What if she had body hair? What if she is a lesbian? Will her opinion matter so much to us? Now notice how the beauty standards are constructed. A conventionally beautiful woman is thin, fair-skinned, has no body hair, etc. So we are not looking at the neighborhood aunty for who she is…we are actually looking at her from the beauty constructs of white, heterosexual men.
Dear members of the Indian cricket team,
Scientists, dietitians, and doctors are also influenced by patriarchal culture.They are not Gods. They are subjective human beings who are conditioned by the society. A good example of this is the way some doctors fat-shame their patients.
‘Baahubali: The Conclusion’ is a nice movie but there are places where the message of ‘women empowerment’ feels like a joke.
IPL is a wonderful tournament but it is disappointing to see only female cheerleaders on the sidelines. There is nothing wrong with cheerleading…The problem is sexism (why can’t we have male cheerleaders)? By having only female cheerleaders, we are telling a generation of girls that they are only supposed to ‘cheer’ for men. Aren’t women expected to do this in every area of life? While the man reaches milestones in his career, the woman is supposed to sacrifice her dreams and ‘cheer’ for his achievements.
I carry a book everywhere I go because
a. It makes me feel safe
b. I want to read as much as I can
I am currently reading a book called ‘Everyday Sexism’. I didn’t want to test or judge anybody..that was not my intention (Okay, okay, I was judging people a little bit). But somehow, the book has gained popularity amongst my colleagues. It slowly became an experiment…I began to understand others by the way they reacted to the book on my desk. Here are some of their reactions:
Colleague 1: What is this book? OMG..’Everyday Sexism’ (in a mocking tone). It’s pretty deep, huh?
Colleague 2: Everyday Sexism..what is this about (this person seemed genuinely curious)
Colleague 3: This person just looked at the book, looked at me and went away
Colleague 4: ‘Baap re’ expression
Colleague 5: WTF expression
I guess I will be soon labelled a ‘Feminazi’ 😀 (I am a feminist and I don’t care if it is an uncool thing).
Deifying mothers is dehumanizing them. Human beings are entitled to be imperfect and it is cruel to expect them to sacrifice everything for others. If you really love your mother than stop expecting her to be selfless. Instead, embrace her flaws and her dreams.
Homemakers are expected to work without any pay because according to society, “the work is done out of love and money exchange shouldn’t happen in matters of love”. And yet, society doesn’t have any problem in measuring love and companionship when it comes to dowry. What happens to “love” when it puts out matrimonials with numbers like height, weight etc?